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we’ve got work to do…

November 12, 2016

I apologize now if what follows tends to wander a bit. No matter how much time I’ve spent this week trying to put words to what I am feeling, the complexity of the entire thing has me reeling still.

Yes, I’m talking about the election…or more precisely, I’m talking about the reaction to the election…Mine, yours…all the varied reactions I’ve seen.

Let me start with me, because I know me intimately and I have done enough soul searching to express myself.  There was shock, of course, followed quickly by anger and then came the fear.  Grief took a little longer to arrive, but arrive it did.  Something else has been a part of this emotional milkshake as well, but it took me until last night to identify it.  Guilt.

I feel guilty.  Not because I voted for a vile man, but because so many like me did.  See, I live in a pretty big pocket of privilege.  I am white, middle class and while I am part of the LGBTQ community, I inhabit that invisible pocket under the B.  On top of that, I live in the very liberal San Francisco Bay Area.  The chances that I will be a target of any of the fallout, is small.

Yet, I have friends who have already been threatened.  I have friends who have had their property vandalized, their citizenship all but invalidated by those who would whitewash our nation, their lives threatened.

The people in my life are a rainbow of nationalities, religions, skin colors, genders, orientation…pretty much any label we use to divide ourselves are discarded and instead, they are kin…they are my chosen family, brothers and sisters of my heart.  People who fill my life with love, and they are today in danger.

I don’t even mean in danger by the policies that our newly elected vileness pose.  I am talking merely of the danger of a populace of angry people who have had the veneer of societal responsibility ripped away, giving them permission to express their true feelings about the people they somehow believe are oppressing them.

We, as a society, have to step up.  We have to remind these angry people that their misogyny, their bigotry is unacceptable..that we will not stand idly by while they abuse those they dislike for whatever reason.  We must begin immediately.  We must start now.

Yes, I know.  You’re hurting too.  You’re grieving too.  You can’t find the reason in this madness.  I know.  I’m still there too.  I don’t begin to know how we came to this place.  I just know that we’re here now and we must act.

We must act now and we must make our voices heard.  Not just those who have been targeted.  I’m talking to the white men and women who are feeling this guilt, the ones who did not vote for vileness, the ones who maybe did, but have begun to see the error of their ways.  Stand up.  Act.  Do something more than wringing your hands while you sit comfortably within your privilege.

Start now…and don’t stop.  We need to protect our people.  We need to make our society a safe place to live in, not for some of our citizens, but for all of them.  We need to make enough noise that the Republican congress and the vileness we elected do not dare to enact the things he spoke of, for fear that we the people will respond.

Grieve.  Work through your fear, your anger, your guilt.  Find your strength.

But then it’s time to roll up your sleeves and strap on those stompy boots.  We’ve got work to do.




so, you say you want a revolution…

September 27, 2016

I hear a lot of people bemoaning the fact that third party candidates weren’t invited to the big debate show last night.  They’re often the same people bemoaning the fact that Bernie Sanders lost the Democratic nomination to Hillary Clinton.  They clamor about “the status-quo” and “institutionalized politics” and how we need to break out of the two-party system.  They want real progress, not the inching forward we’ve been doing for the last 8 years, and will likely continue to do under a Hillary Clinton presidency.

They talk about casting a protest vote to let the government feel their rage.  They talk about mobilizing everyone who has bought all of the lies about how crooked Hillary is, and all of those who can’t stomach voting for Trump, despite being Republican, to vote for Stein or Johnson, basic math be damned.

You know, maybe…maybe such a protest could be organized if it had started about a year ago.  Maybe.  But even then, basic math runs contrary to the idea.  The percentage of eligible citizenry who actually vote is ridiculously low, then that percentage is divided, first along the party lines.  Like it or not, Democrat and Republican are the heavy hitters here.  The bulk of the US voting population is one or the other.  That leaves a minority of a minority for the other parties and the independents to fight over.

It doesn’t take a math genius to figure out that the odds are seriously against any minor party or independent candidate to do anything more than split the vote on one side of the aisle or the other and hand the contest to the candidate of the party that didn’t get split by the also-rans.

Now, before you start screaming at me about change and progress and all of that, let me remind you that I’m probably more liberal than most of the Democratic party. And yes, I’m registered Democrat.  And I voted for Hillary in the primary here in California. Not because I didn’t think that Bernie would be a great President, but because I knew that Bernie would face the same opposition that Obama has for the last 8 years.

Does that mean Hillary is further right than Bernie?  Maybe.  Or maybe she’s better at finding compromise.  That’s what a government by the people, for the people is meant to be about.   Does it mean that I’m advocating for the middle ground?

Actually, yes. We, as a country, do better when we remember how to compromise, when we see our fellow citizens as human beings with needs and desires just like us, rather than demons that are out to kill us and take our guns and force us to get healthcare.

We don’t need a revolution, we already did that once.  We need to remember the principles we were founded on and we need to come together to bring about lasting change.  We have a lot of problems that need to be dealt with and with the path we’re currently on, w ‘re more likely to end up with a second civil war rather than another revolutionary war.

But, if you still want to throw a tantrum and demand we leave the two party system for good?  You can.  But that revolution can not start at the top.  You can’t expect to just throw a fit when it’s time to elect a president, jump into the fray a few months from the election and expect it to go your way.

In order to change the system, you’re going to have to work within the system first.  Get candidates on the national scene in the House and the Senate (and you know, make sure they aren’t kooks), campaign locally and at the State level.  Build up a party that has a chance as a contender.  Start now and maybe you’ll be ready for the next presidential election.

Or, split the vote, end up with Trump as president for the next four years and whine about how it isn’t really your fault before you slink back into your hiding place to commiserate with your co-revolutionaries without actually accomplishing anything.

For the record?  I really want to see you do the work.  I want to see the status-quo threatened in a meaningful way. I want to see new ideas and better plans.  I want to watch us grow in the way that only open dialog and challenging ideas can nurture.

Bring the revolution.  But do it in a way that doesn’t destroy our country for the next four years.

Forever (and ever)

June 23, 2016

Last week I was all set to post here with publishing news, but decided commentary on Orlando superseded my need to promo my new book.  Now, however, I can tell you all about Forever, and how you can get your very own copy.

Some of you reading may remember that I originally self-published Forever.  Earlier this year, Creativia publishing agreed to take it under their banner and republish it.  This meant a new edit, minor changes and a whole new cover.

Forever is the story of a woman named Amara, who was born of a vampire and raised by bloodthirsty family, but struggles with her humanity. The story follows her journey from her blood soaked beginning to her attempts to live as a mortal, into the dark places grief and pain drive her to and beyond as she tries to find the balance between the two sides of herself.

Book Blurb: Born in the dawn of man’s history, with forever laid out before her, Amara is neither human nor vampire and yet fully both; a killer, a child, a lover, a monster.

She wanders the world seeking redemption and vengeance in equal measure, discovering love in its many forms and loss in its deepest agony, as her life circles around two others who return to her again and again until their fates are set right.

“The ancient game is played out as three souls, born together in the lost pages of time, are as they were meant to be. But to tell that story, my story, I must go back to the beginning. To the time before I came to be. Before any of us had come to be.”

You can get a Kindle copy by clicking this link: Forever on Kindle

Or if you prefer a book, you can click here: Forever in Paperback

You can find me on Facebook at: Author Natalie J Case

On Twitter, I am @nataliejcase

And, if you’ve read the book I would appreciate an honest review. Reviews help sell books!

…the loneliness of trepidation…

June 15, 2016

All things considered, I live a pretty charmed life.  I mean, sure I have my share of “adulting failure” that leads to weeks with under $20 to get to work and eat on, but over all, I have it pretty good.  That privilege is in stark relief this week and I have been looking at it square on and I’ve come to realize just how much it affects my life.

Despite the fact that I am, in point of fact, female and despite the truth that I am a part of the LGBTQ community, I am privileged in ways I hadn’t considered before this week.

As a fat chick, I escape a whole lot of the ogling and catcalling my more attractive sisters deal with.  Rape is not the first worry on my mind when strange men pass me on the street, nor when I look up and find myself in a room full of men.  I don’t get rude comments from guys.  And it isn’t like I don’t give them room.  I happen to love my breasts and I take pleasure in wearing clothing that frames them well.  I can count on one hand the number of strangers who have ever commented on them in any way, let alone in a creepy, rapey way.

I escape all of that bullshit my sisters deal with. Okay, like 99.8% of it anyway.  And, in my experience, when one of my sisters is with me and they’re being harassed all it takes is for me to indicate that she belongs to me for those creepy men to back off.  Maybe I’ve just been lucky.  I don’t know.

As someone who is bi-sexual or pansexual (I haven’t fully developed my preference between these yet…I’m somewhere in between right now), and as someone who largely presents as the gender I was born as, I have a particular privilege as well.  Most straight people I know would never guess that I am a part of the LGBTQ family just be looking at me.  I look like any other average fat chick walking down the street.  The only time I have ever faced harassment for being “gay” was one year as I was leaving Pride, wearing a Pride staff t-shirt.

Don’t get me wrong.  I sometimes like to wear guys clothing, but I’m not very butch.  I sometimes like to dress up pretty and wear a dress, but I’m not a femme.  Most of the time, I’m just me…a big woman with big boobs and long hair.

Sometimes this privilege makes me feel like an outsider, even in my own chosen family. Like I’m not girly enough to be a part of the girls’ club, and not gay enough to be a part of the gay club…even though I’m too female to be a guy and too gay to be straight.

I’m feeling that keenly this week. I keep finding myself not wanting to express my grief, my fear, because I’m afraid it won’t be understood.  I’m afraid that others need the attention I might garner because I express my rage. I worry that I will be seen as histrionic by straight friends and family who can not understand the ways this tragedy has affected the lives of people who didn’t know any of the victims.

People who don’t know me well enough to know that I am pansexual, that I love men and women and those who are non-binary and everyone else, have asked me why I am crying. And I find it difficult to speak eloquently enough to make them understand.  I end up fumbling about with words like family and brothers and sisters, and then have to clear up the notion that I was related to a victim.  It’s awkward and weird and I can’t help but wonder if I need to drape myself in rainbows and install a neon sign above my head with the LGBTQ  on a rainbow with the B in flashing lights for it to start to be easier.


And a part of me feels guilty for even writing this.  Part of me feels like I do when we’re talking about people of color: It’s not your turn to talk. Sit down, shut up and listen.  Except it is my turn to talk.  And I will not shut up.

I don’t think any of us in the family are going to shut up now.  We’re done being told to get along.  We’re done being “tolerated” and placated with backhanded wins while politicians are using laws that promote hatred and bigotry, laws that tell people they are allowed to discriminate, as long as it’s because they deeply hold a religious belief that we are shit.  That try to shove us into bathrooms that are unsafe for us.  We are done trying to ignore hateful preachers who call for our deaths from the pulpit and then try to pretend that it isn’t their fault when someone takes them up on it with a gun or a bomb or whatever new way we find to end multiple lives at once.

In ten days, I will be working my tenth Pride in San Francisco.  It’s my service to the community. I work in Donations.  We’re the people who will be standing at the gates into the festival with big pink buckets asking you to donate.  It’s a pretty good gig.  We help you support a variety of community non-profits who volunteer with us.  We fund holiday dinners for shut in LGBTQ folks, religious foundations that support LGBTQ people and initiatives, organizations for LGBTQ youth, and so much more.

It’s the one time of the year I wear my family membership on my sleeve, when I feel the most welcome, the most included in the community.  Those two days, I am home.  I hope this year I can carry that feeling with me beyond Pride month.  Maybe I won’t feel like I’m stuck in the doorway, always looking for the invitation to come inside.

…my heart aches…

June 12, 2016

I was planning on coming here this morning to post about the re-release of my novel “Forever” which is available on Kindle right now via…but instead, I woke to the news of yet another senseless tragedy.

Fifty people dead, fifty three injured in Orlando.  Fifty people who went out with their friends for a night of fun and now will never go home…because one man used a gun to tell the world that he didn’t like gay people.

This man took a weapon into a crowded nightclub and killed fifty people.

Now, we don’t really know all the details. We might never know.  We hear from this criminal’s father that he was anti-gay, that he was recently disgusted to see two men kissing.  And his response to that disgust was to go into a bar and kill people.

We can point fingers all we want, label this man as whatever “other” he needs to be to allow us to continue to justify the vitriol that passes for public discourse, but the truth is that as long as we allow politicians to garner fear and hatred which they use to purchase power, as long as we continue to deny that there is a very real and serious gun problem in this country, as long as we continue to deny basic civil and human rights to any group of people, this is the result we will have.

How many people have to die before we own up to our responsibility?

If you are in Orlando, and healthy enough to do so, please donate blood.  The blood supply is in crisis and they are open to donations to anyone, including gay men.  All blood will be screened.

If your response to this mass killing is to immediately blame someone “other” whether that other is due to religion or race or whatever, please take a moment to realize that the bad guy isn’t always “other” and our hatred feeds their hatred until our entire diet is consuming hatred with side dishes of anger and fury.

If your response to this mass killing is to praise this man for doing “god’s” work, no matter which god you attribute it too, please consider that any god worthy of devotion would not, could not condone mass murder and if your religion demands that you hate anyone, you should look for a new religion.

Love your neighbor, people.  All of them.  Even the “other” neighbor, the one who isn’t like you.  And please be safe.

exciting things are happening

June 7, 2016

I haven’t posted to this blog in a while about my other writing endeavors, but not too long ago, my first, self-published novel “Forever” was picked up by the publishing company Creativia (

Since then it’s been a whirlwind of edits and formats and conversations about cover art and it’s close to coming to fruition.  This morning I woke up to an email with cover designs to sort through and decide on.

This is so very exciting!

It has spurred me into finishing my second novel, which is now in the hands of my editor and will be the first in a two part series.  The second half of which is my current writing project.

I can’t wait to share everything with all of you.

If you want to be first to hear the news and to see the cover when it’s revealed, make sure that you are following my Facebook page (

Oh, look at the time!  I have to run to the day job. Have a fabulous Tuesday!

take a walk

May 17, 2016

My primary form of exercise at the moment is walking.  Yes, I also have an elliptical machine, some resistance bands, balance balls and a yoga DVD I actually enjoy…but a big hang up for me when it comes to exercise is how much time it wastes.

Yeah, I realize it isn’t actually wasted.

Tell that to my brain.

Anyway, like I said I walk. Outside.  To get places.

I walk fairly slowly, I average about a 30 minute mile right now.  I walk from my house to the BART station, which is between a half mile and three quarters of a mile, depending on which route I take. At lunch, I walk about a mile. And of course, I walk home from the BART station.

On the days I’m not in the office, I try to get out and walk to run errands.  I used to have about a half mile radius I could walk, which would get me to Starbucks, Target, CVS, the movie theater, and a few places to eat.

This was mostly due to the ongoing back problem, which only escalated when I first got the job I’m currently in, due to a really badly set up chair. However, in the last few months, with getting the chair fixed, doing all of my exercises and increasing my nortriptyline dosage slightly, I have found an amazing new ability to walk longer and further.

Now I can walk to the grocery store and so much more.

Needless to say, this means that I am a fat woman out walking in public.  And I sweat.  One look at me and you know that this is work. More so as the season warms up and the sweat stains spread. Not that I’m embarrassed of my sweat.  No, I’m proud of it.  Sweat means I’m actively working to improve myself.

I do however sometimes fear something.  You know, as a fat person, I’m used to name calling, laughing and pointing, and shouted insults from moving cars when I’m out in public. Doesn’t mean they don’t hurt.  Sure, it bothers me.  But I’ve learned to tell myself that those narrow minded idiots don’t matter in the grand scheme of my life.

There are hundreds of blog posts and internet articles bemoaning these people and rallying for body acceptance and telling us to love ourselves. And I believe in loving myself.  Most of the time I do love myself and my body.

But I’ve noticed something in the last couple of months.  While I’m out walking, people actually meeting my eyes and smiling.  People who are out running doing the same.  When I’ve paused my walk to deal with one of my many body malfunctions (one knee or the other suddenly hurting, back pain, asthma, etc…) or the fact that I’m going to keel over from the heat, and I’ve sat to catch my breath, people don’t make jokes (that I can hear anyway).

Maybe I just live in a really polite town. Maybe the memo has finally been seen and read, the one that says shame doesn’t work, or maybe the one that says “Don’t be a dick”…or maybe my own confidence in someway instills a different attitude in the people around me.

I don’t know…but I’m enjoying it.

I’ve ordered a cart for shopping so that I can walk to get groceries.  We’ll see if that alters anything.  For now, I’ll just enjoy being treated like a person who happens to be fat, rather than like a fat person.